Dear Invisible Mama
Dear invisible mama,
It's okay to not be okay.
Don't allow others to push you into the shadows.
If you find yourself in a shadow, cling to the light.
Your story about your sweet babe and your good and gracious Father- that is your light.
Jesus is your light.
When others simply don't get it, cling to the light.
Ignore what culture says about what you should and should not share and how you should or should not grieve.
Your outward signs of grief do not have to be justified.
There is no justifying the loss of your child.
You are not over exaggerating.
Again,
You ARE NOT over exaggerating.
The way that your heart and soul and body grieve are unique to you.
If you choose to stay quiet and treasure your babe in your heart, do it.
If you choose to name your child and share that with everyone you meet...
DO IT.
Mama, it is okay to not be okay.
Yes, the rest of the world kept moving when your world stopped.
And it's okay to not be put together when you try to step back into that spinning world.
It's hard to be in public, I know.
Just promise me that you will not isolate yourself.
Share your story if you wish, tell people about your babe.
It will make them uncomfortable; and that's okay.
Find community in the other mamas who have experienced loss.
Hang tight to the people who choose to walk with you in your suffering and extend grace when to you when you fall apart.
Those, my dear, are the people who will pull you from the shadows.
One day they'll need you to walk with them in their suffering. And I hope you'll be there.
Remember that Scripture says that God weeps over His children.
Let the Light of the Universe hold your weary weeping heart.
Sometimes Jesus gives us courage when we don't feel we even have the strength to utter a word.
Take hold of His light and courage, for you are not an invisible mama when you step into His light. He sees and knows your heart, mama.
And you have every right to tell the world about your child.
In His light you will see that your child who never breathed this side of Heaven has an impact and is a light.
To my little light, thank you for making me a mama.
It's okay to not be okay.
Don't allow others to push you into the shadows.
If you find yourself in a shadow, cling to the light.
Your story about your sweet babe and your good and gracious Father- that is your light.
Jesus is your light.
When others simply don't get it, cling to the light.
Ignore what culture says about what you should and should not share and how you should or should not grieve.
Your outward signs of grief do not have to be justified.
There is no justifying the loss of your child.
You are not over exaggerating.
Again,
You ARE NOT over exaggerating.
The way that your heart and soul and body grieve are unique to you.
If you choose to stay quiet and treasure your babe in your heart, do it.
If you choose to name your child and share that with everyone you meet...
DO IT.
Mama, it is okay to not be okay.
Yes, the rest of the world kept moving when your world stopped.
And it's okay to not be put together when you try to step back into that spinning world.
It's hard to be in public, I know.
Just promise me that you will not isolate yourself.
Share your story if you wish, tell people about your babe.
It will make them uncomfortable; and that's okay.
Find community in the other mamas who have experienced loss.
Hang tight to the people who choose to walk with you in your suffering and extend grace when to you when you fall apart.
Those, my dear, are the people who will pull you from the shadows.
One day they'll need you to walk with them in their suffering. And I hope you'll be there.
Remember that Scripture says that God weeps over His children.
Let the Light of the Universe hold your weary weeping heart.
Sometimes Jesus gives us courage when we don't feel we even have the strength to utter a word.
Take hold of His light and courage, for you are not an invisible mama when you step into His light. He sees and knows your heart, mama.
And you have every right to tell the world about your child.
In His light you will see that your child who never breathed this side of Heaven has an impact and is a light.
To my little light, thank you for making me a mama.
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